So, I’m planning my re-wedding. Yes, I’m getting married twice to the same guy, and no, there wasn’t any kind of confusion of sexual orientation that annulled the first wedding, in case you were wondering. Nope, my first wedding was of the shotgun variety, sans baby — we had immigration hoops to jump through so my husband could escape the captivity of our rental home and enter the American work force, which required us to get married in a hasty fashion. This meant I had two weeks to plan my wedding and minimal availability of vendors/officiants/locations, etc… (We ended up getting married in a strip mall behind a Mexican restaurant on a rainy November afternoon; it was lovely despite the despondent backdrop.) The biggest negative about the whole affair though, was that, because of the short notice, only one member of my husband’s very large family (he’s one of six children) could make the trip.
I was hoping that my advanced planning would remedy this nuptial ineptitude the second time around — as well as my bridal shortcomings of not donning the white dress and my father missing the chance to give me away. But, while I’ve found the dress, and my dad is already working on finding the perfect music to play while walking me down the aisle – I nixed Buffalo Springfield’s “For What It’s Worth” much to his dismay — the direct impact of gas prices on airfare has made my third obstacle insurmountable.
No one from John’s family is going to be able to make it this time around. Round-trip tickets from Dublin are fetching a hefty $1,500 at the moment, and that seems to be a bit steep for a weekend trip across the Atlantic. But, while both John and I are devastated that no one from his family will be there, we’re still looking forward to having a ‘proper wedding.’ With the added planning time, I’ve had the chance to look at excellent resources to make sure that no aspect of this wedding is amiss. We’ve hired an amazing photographer to ensure that each moment is captured so that his parents won’t miss a single instant. I’ve found a great vendor and location on Angie’s List, and, with the brilliant suggestion from Staci to incorporate wedding pictures of our parents and grandparents, John’s family will have their own two-dimensional representation. I’m not cutting many corners this time around, and I figure it’s all worth it. After all, I’ll only get married twice…
So nice, you married him twice!